When you are engaged, you have many decisions that you have to make one of them being, your wedding party. So, how do you best choose your wedding party successfully? That is what we are going to discuss today. Selecting your wedding party is a pretty huge decision you are going to make because who you select is the ones who will be standing next to you on your big day.
Take Your Time
As much as you are on an engagement high right now, don’t go handing out honour to be in your wedding party to just anyone. It is best to take your time to really consider your options of who you want to be in your wedding party. For some it could take up to a few weeks depending on schedules and if people are available.
You want to choose people that can handle this role so when thinking about someone for your wedding party to consider these things:
- Does this person approve of you getting married?
- Is she/he excited for you?
- Can this person handle the responsibilities?
- Is this person reliable?
Wedding Party Number
How many do you need for a wedding party? It is really up to you, some brides want a small number such as two – four and there are other brides who have 6-10. Just remember the amount that you decide to choose does affect the time it takes to get you down the aisle. Which you don’t want your guests getting overwhelmed with too many bridesmaids coming down the aisle. The goal is to have the focus on you.
Remember you do not have to an even amount of bridesmaids and groomsmen. It just looks better when it is balanced out however it is nothing to stress about if you want two bridesmaids and your fiance wants four groomsmen. It is your wedding so you can have uneven.
Change the Rules
The rules of having all-woman bridesmaids and all-men groomsman have been thrown to the wind these days. Nowadays, our best friends or close friends may not be the same sex as us so couples have been switching things up and changing up the rules so that they can have their close female or male friends at their side. Don’t be afraid to change these rules for your wedding as well and customize it to match who you are.
#SiblingsMatter
If your fiance has siblings it is a kind gesture to ask them to be part of your wedding party so that they do not feel left out. This will save you from having to deal with tension with your new family. As much as this is your big day, it is also a huge day for your future family as well. If you have siblings that you are close with, you would want the same gesture to be given to them as well. So, save a spot for a sibling especially if your fiance has a small close family situation. It will be greatly appreciated in the long hall.
Don’t Invite Because of an Invite
If you believe that you have to add a friend to your wedding party because you were in their wedding party, then you are in the invite because of the invite train.
The fact is that you do not have to invite this friend solely because they invited you and had you in their wedding party. They ask you because you are apart of their inner circle, and you are reliable however if you do not feel the same about them, it is okay to not have them in your wedding party. Ask yourself the question I mentioned above and if its yes, then ask them. If not, don’t be afraid to pass the honour to someone else.
Responsible People Are Key
As much as this is an honour for them to be apart of your wedding party, remember that it comes with duties and responsibilities. They are required to help you out with a variety of tasks, they may need to be there for emotional and physical support during this time. Don’t forget there are events they need to attend to such as bridal showers and bachelor and bachelorette parties.
So as much as this sounds like a fun time, it takes planning. So, make sure that your choices are up for the challenge and not a Debbie downer about helping out.
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Make Decisions With Your Fiancé
Before you make the huge announcement or start giving out ‘will you be my bridesmaid? (or groomsman)’ gifts, you will want to take a moment to sit down with your fiance and talk about your choices. It may sound strange since it is your wedding party however, it is great time to start getting in the habit of planning things together and communicating what is going on so that both of you feel apart of the decision making and feel like you are on the same page.
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Final Thoughts
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